My journey to a healthier me

Tales of my life

Worry

on May 30, 2012

I admit it, I’m a worry-wart. Always have been. It is a very hard habit to break. Or at least it is for me. Over the years, I’ve learned to let some things go, but there are still things that I worry about. You might be asking yourself what this has to do with my journey. A lot actually. When I worry, I’m stressed. And when I’m stressed, I eat … And usually badly.

A good friend told me not to worry, it does nothing for you. If you can’t do anything about it, what is the point of worrying. Just let it go.

Easier said than done. I know that it doesn’t do any good to worry. But that doesn’t always help. Some things are easy to let go of, or at least relatively easy. I’ve learned to let go of little things … Well most little things anyway. But it’s the big things that I have trouble with. I get stressed when I’m worried about big stuff. My heart tells my brain that it will be okay, that everything will work out as it should, but my brain still worries. Or maybe it’s the other way around. Or maybe it’s both.

And yes, the point of this post is that I’m worried about something. Now I’m not going to go into details about it so don’t ask. I will tell you that it is NOT health related. It’s just something that is bothering me, and I can’t really do anything about it, and yet I’m still worried about it.

So how does one stop worrying? Good question. And I wish I had the answer.

Another friend suggested The Serenity Prayer …

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and the wisdom to know the difference.

Good advice. But it’s not really helping right now.

The same friend suggested there is more to my worrying than I think. Perhaps there is an underlying reason I’m worried, but I haven’t figured out what that reason is yet. It’s not necessarily the big thing that has me worried, but some smaller consequence of it that is the real reason behind my stress. So once I figure that out, perhaps it will be easier to deal with, to let go of. There is a reason everything happens.

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As I’ve been writing this post, I’ve been chatting with the above mentioned friend. And I think he made me realize what has been bothering me. I think we might have figured out the underlying reason. What is happening is taking me out of my comfort zone and I’m worried I won’t find it again. Seems like a simple thing. I can’t believe I didn’t think of that. But sometimes we need someone else to point out what is right in front of us. So will this stop my worrying? Perhaps in this situation it will. Time will tell. And time will tell if it wills help in future situations.

You might be asking yourself why did I chose to post this anyway after figuring out what was wrong. I think it’s a good lesson. Not just for me, but for anyone who reads my blog. There might be more to your worrying than you think. Look for the underlying reason behind it. And if you can’t find it, talk it over with a good friend. You just might need help seeing what is right in front of you. And remember, there is a reason everything happens.

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